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The Rules of Casual Sex

We’ve discussed how a friends-with-benefits situation can lead to problems. But if you’re single, sometimes you want to be able to enjoy a little nooky with a partner who you actually know, so there are some perks to having a trusted booty call. Of course it’s all about finding a balance between physical intimacy and emotional detachment. In the hopes of helping achieve this perfect and elusive equilibrium of the casual hook-up, Daily Bedpost has formulated a list of 25 rules. I picked my favorites below, and threw in a few of my own, too.

  • Both parties must be either single or in open relationships.
  • Exes you are currently friends with make ideal booty call partners. However, if one party broke the other’s heart, pursuing a booty-call arrangement is a no-no (at least for 24 months).
  • If you’re not having fun, then by definition, it isn’t a proper booty call.
  • Just because the sex is casual doesn’t make it an appropriate topic for casual conversation. Be discreet.
  • Don’t assume that duration implies relationship progression.If you feel yourself getting emotionally invested, don’t convince yourself that he’s feeling the same way. In fact, as soon as you notice those feelings rising without reciprocation, end things.
  • Don’t use someone who has feelings for you as your casual hook-up. Imagine how you’d feel if someone did that to you.
  • Even if you’re not sleeping with anyone other than him, get STI tests regularly. (You don’t know who else he might be having sex with.)